Some men love fine wine, some love vintage watches, some love the slow ritual of a perfect dinner. And some men love trans women. In my experience, they have a lot in common: curiosity, confidence and a taste for things that are rare and beautifully made.
Drawn to femininity
What attracts these men is femininity in its most deliberate form. A trans woman has chosen every detail of the woman she is: her voice, her walk, her hair, her perfume, the way she holds a glass. Nothing about it is accidental. Many men tell me that this is exactly what fascinates them: a woman who has made herself, with intention and with love.
Confidence is the real aphrodisiac
The men who come to me are often successful, cultured and well travelled. They are not looking for permission from anyone. They know what they like, and they enjoy it with elegance. I find that deeply attractive. A man who follows his desire with calm and confidence is a man who knows himself.
A world of its own
An evening with a trans woman is its own experience: the femininity you love, the softness, the curves, and a kind of complicity that many men find nowhere else. Some men discover it late, some have dreamed of it for years. All of them tell me the same thing afterwards: they wish they had come sooner 馃敟
Something to try
- Watch: Disclosure (Netflix, 2020). A beautiful documentary in which trans women and men talk about how they have been shown on screen, and how that is changing.
- Notice, the next time you feel drawn to someone, what exactly catches your eye. The voice? The hands? The way she moves? Desire becomes richer when you know its details.
- Ask yourself: what do you love most about femininity?