Anita writes
Short essays on desire, trust and the art of a beautiful evening, by a trans woman who is gentle by nature and submissive by delight.
- Why powerful men don't want a woman as stressed as they areA divorce lawyer explained it in thirty seconds: the joy he makes possible is his reward. It is also the whole idea behind my evenings.
- Why should you spoil me? Because it is a pleasure of its ownA man on FetLife asked why he should spoil a woman. My answer: because giving is a pleasure, and what you give comes back to you.
- Your first time with a trans woman: fears, questions and how we take it slowlyCurious but nervous? Every first time begins with questions. Here are the ones men ask me most, and how we go step by step, only towards what you enjoy.
- Straight men and trans women: why it does not make you gayIf you are a straight man attracted to trans women, you are not confused. You are attracted to women, and you have an open mind.
- Passive or active: what it means, and where I standMen often ask whether a trans woman is passive or active. Here is what the words mean, and why I am entirely passive.
- Chastity and delayed pleasure: the art of waitingChastity is not about denial. It is about anticipation, trust and a pleasure that grows the longer it waits.
- Rituals of respect and surrender: why the frame makes the fantasy possibleDirty talk, humiliation, the darkest fantasies: they are possible because of the ritual of respect and care around them.
- The rise of trans desire: what the search data saysAccording to Pornhub's own yearly review, trans was the second most viewed category in the world in 2025. Desire is changing, and so is acceptance.